You're Gonna Hate This.... (Or love it!)
From: Janet Goldstein
To: All Msg #89, Jun-12-93 06:12AM
Subject: You're Gonna Hate This..
The following is a True Life Experience. I posted this account on my local
lesbian/gay BBS, where there has been a huge response in both opposition and
support. Fortunately, it's on topic for this echo, too.
I am sick and fucking tired of bigoted straight people.
I took my life in my hands less than an hour ago. [Okay, that's a bit of
hyperboly, and I've already been blasted for it.] I confronted
a homophobe on the Light Rail on my way to work. She was, as
they say, asking for it.
She was talking with her girlfriend (both of them middle-aged
white women) about the Tony Awards; how everybody there seemed
to be gay, and how she felt like an alien. Surrounded by "it."
I listened to this for a little while, put down my book -- I
just couldn't concentrate any more -- and turned to her and
said, "You better get used to it."
I went on to tell her and her friend how WE feel being
surrounded by THEM and having THEIR lifestyle shoved in OUR
faces. Asked her why the hell I should not be able to marry
the women I love, live with, share a house and bank account
with. Told her about having no role models while I was growing
She claimed that, as a woman, she knows about oppression. She
opined that it is wrong for anybody to hate anybody, even for
the oppressed to hate their oppressors ("you don't hate
rapists, then?" -- no, she's so evolved she claims actually
doesn't. I told her she might feel different about that if she
were a Black person living in South Africa) and that everybody
has "different feelings" about preferences and lifestyles.
(Note that I'm not quoting her verbatim, except for her
parting shot as I got off the train: "We just don't want to
have it shoved in our faces." "Neither do we," was my reply.)
H O W D A R E T H E Y
complain about us being in their faces when we cannot walk
down the street, go to school or work or to the movies, to a
bookstore or even a fucking McDonald's without having them and
their breeder lifestyles in OUR faces? How fucking DARE they?
Straight people have some kinda nerve. We've got one hell of
a battle ahead of us, when even the liberals are against us.
Damn it, I forgot to correct the bitch about the red ribbons:
it's an AIDS thing, not a gay thing -- of course, to so many
bigoted, ignorant straights it's six of one, half a dozen of
the other, isn't it? GRRRRRRR.
I still think it's up to us to come out. Coming out is our
greatest weapon. I could have kept my goddamn mouth shut this
morning, I guess, if my life depended on it. My feeling,
though, is that our lives depend on visibility. We and our
friends are everywhere, but that does us little good if we're
Well, plenty of folks were eavesdropping on that conversation.
Perhaps some dumbfuck will recognize me on the way to the
Light Rail this evening and beat the shit out of me. Fine,
[Note: nobody did.]
* If I were not a consummate professional and an android...