Anonymous asked this question on 7/11/2000:
Hello everybody! Hang with me here because i have a lot of questions. Let me explain my situation. My boyfriend left me,or actually kicked me and our daughter as well as my son out of his house, a few months ago. We met 2 in a half years ago and when i met him i was married. I had found out a few months before i met my ex-boyfriend that my husband had paid a call girl $ 250.00 to come into our home and strip for him. I was working 3rd shift and he was off work hurt so you can imagine how we struggled. Plus 2 months before this happened i had miscarried our baby. So i decided to leave my husband but he pleaded with me to stay with him through the holidays because i found this out in november. So i agreed. In december i met dwayne ,who later became my boyfriend and we had a daughter together, and in january i left my husband due to what happened previously and due to the fact that i fell in love with dwayne. As me and dwayne started talking and getting to know one another i found out i was pregnant by my husband. So i was honest with dwayne and told him. He proceded to tell me that it did not bother me that i was pregnant but as soon as i started showing he was gone. We got back together 6 months later. 4 months later i became pregnant with our daughter. So on through my pregnancy i went to the doctor alone,i took care of my son alone,i paid for everything as far as our dates went,we quit having sex,he started drinking really heavy and only coming to see me on saturday nights only,he was always off playing ball some where,basically i was alone through everything. After i had my daughter i moved in with him hoping to make a family with the kids and him. One day,after i had only been back to work 1 week from having our daughter, he calls and tells me that he dosen't wan't me to come back home and that he needs his space. In the mean time he get's a 1 bedroom apartment for himself while i'm trying to find a home for my kids. his reason for wanting to leave me is because i'm still married. Which i never told him i was divorced and the only reason i'm not divorced is because i feel that my husband made the mistake so why should i be the one to pay for the divorce. My question is should i pay for the divorce? Did dwayne have a good reason to leave me? Also he dosen't wan't to be with me but he still asks to borrow gas money and he still want's to sleep with me. Could he feel that he's made a mistake and realizes it or am i being used?? How could i tell if he loved me and if he still does?? Am i just being stupid?? Should i go on with my life with my kids and find someone new?? HELP HELP HELP PLEASE!!!!!!! i,M SO CONFUSED. IF THERE'S ANY MEN WHO COULD ALSO HELP ME FIGURE OUT THIS STUFF PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
jrclu2 gave this response on 7/11/2000:
HEY; how is today going? good !if so great I didn't read the others answers so I maybe just repeating. divorce the married one cause that is over. even if you shack up once in a while. why do you give him $ are you rich and don't care. I know he had it good but now you are going to be tough with him . he get's free sex? what a great deal for him . don't feel like you are making a mistake you are going to look back on all this and wonder why you put up with this crap so long. in the mean time think about getting your self in great shape work out to pass the time go to some places you like to be and the kids will enjoy and dont change too much to fast keep doing what you are doing and start seeing a help group go to aa or be come a Eastern Star that is a great group of ladies i know my mother and 2 sisters are in that group ....what ever you do keep smiling they will think yoiu are up to something if you get the time let me know how you are.
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