arsmith36 asked this question on 7/13/2000:
I am seeing a man who has a 7 year old daughter. I didn't think much of it, since I love kids, especially little girls. But his daughter is not too happy when I'm around. Also, he spoils her rotten, so when she does start pouting, he drops everything and tends to her . He admits he does spoil her, and that her behavior has been unacceptable the last time I was around. She was pouting, walking away, and being a general spoiled kid. I have a hard time with this behaviour, as I think strong parenting includes discipline and respect. So, I am not sure how to proceed with this. When it is just the 2 of us - it's great - he is so sweet, attentive, and just really great, and we have great chemistry. but I know that is not the entire package. Any advice for me? How should we as a couple proceed - we have talked about ways we can try to get through this time, and even went to the bookstore to try to find a book on it (no luck yet).
dimps_76 gave this response on 7/13/2000:
I think that you are a great person when dealing with children that isn't your own. Most young adult really don't consider dealing with a man with children.What I suggest doing is having patience with the child.It makes it a bit harder for you because you don't have any children.As far him spoiling her,help him to make the child understand that she can't have every thing she wants just because she pouts.Most kids use that against the parents one they have a fit.We all want our kids to have the best things in life,but pouting won't get past most parents.The most important thing is to get the child to respect you.After you accomplished that,I feel you can get far with your stepdaughter(smile).She likes you most kids just gives you a hard time because they are used to their mom.Help the child understand the things that are important for her,and belive me she'll thank you oin the long run. Have plenty of patience,courage, understanding,and lots of humor.Understand that he is going to raise her his way,and that doesn't mean she is not suppose to respect you.Support him and his daughter in what it turns out to be. Peace and Love!