Anonymous asked this question on 7/10/2000:
okay i'm 18 and my b/f of almost 2 years bestfriend is or has already fell for me and i'm falling for me and my b/f have to many problems his friend is a sweetheart i really like him. help me i'm so confused what should i do in this sitution?
SeekTrueLove gave this response on 7/10/2000:
Well, that's a very touchy situation that you are in right now. You and your boyfriend's best friend have fallen in love with each other.
This will probably end your boyfriend's friendship with his best friend. Regardless of what you do. And it will lead to the break up of your already disintegrating relationship with your boyfriend.
Sounds as though you are no longer into your current relationship anyways. Your boyfriend has "too many problems"...you're right. You and his best friend are two of them.
You could break up with your boyfriend right away and come clean with the behind-his-back trist with his best friend. Then you and the new guy can be together.
Or you could walk away from the entire situation, both your current boyfriend and his best friend, and hope for the best that they can reconcile (if they even know about each other) and you can find someone else who is actually available to you.
Bottom line: everybody will lose in some way. There are no winners here. Someone will get hurt.
I hope that you learn from this experience and perhaps you can best avoid a situation like this in the future.
I know this is not the advice you are looking for, but you know what? I don't care. I've been betrayed by my ex-fiancee and a friend and it was the most gawd-awful experience I have ever felt. I wouldn't wish the experience on even my worst enemies (actually I don't have any but you get the point).
Anyways, good luck.
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