huey_vivian asked this question on 4/13/2000:
okay he's my question i left my boyfiend for two weeks stright and then one day me and my friend was in the his car the friends car and he was crying and saying that he would never hit me angain then he left me but he did not want anybody elese he wanted just me in his life but i went back to him the third time around what should i do should i learn to trust him and think things will be okay this time or what?????????????
morgank gave this response on 5/3/2000:
You've gotten a ton of advice and support here honey. I just want to add mine!
And I ask you this with utmost love - really think about it now - are you willing to die for this guy? Does he mean so much to you that you would give him your health and even your life without thinking twice? Do you believe that your health and even your life is worth so little?
Tell this guy to get lost and then get into a support program for abuse victims and turn yourself into a survivor. It is highly unlikely that without help you will never date another abuser again. It's not only that men who abuse keep abusing, but women who are abused keep on picking abusers. Treatment and support can help both, but it sounds like he's not very self-aware at the moment. The fact that you asked for some opinions sounds to me like you might be ready to get some help for yourself.
NEVER, EVER, EVER think it's your fault that he is abusing you. It has nothing to do with you. But there is a reason that you stay, and it ain't love honey.
God bless and keep safe. You are not alone.
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