Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:
I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.
tcsmpsi gave this response on 4/5/2000:
He is manipulating you, which is a form of domineering personality. Personally, I can't quite get a grip on a man who would ask you to buy them something. If he is jealous of you enough to do this, then that jealousy will become more of a problem later. And that is basically why he is asking for something every time YOU want something. Have you talked to him about this? You mention that you love him very much. How do you feel around him? Are you comfortable? I see a definate lack of trust, and trust is the foundation of a 'healthy' relationship. Loving someone very much is one thing, but being able to trust enough to live with someone day in and day out requires more than love.
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