Gays Taunting Heterosexuals with a Subversive Notion: A Lawful Union Can Be Stable and Happy
Gays Taunting Heterosexuals with a Subversive Notion:
A Lawful Union Can Be Stable and Happy
by Robert Scheer (editorial reprinted in Outlines with permission;
contributing editor to LA Times. [email protected])
After careful consideration I have decided that I, too, am
opposed to gay marriages. Not that any gays have asked to
marry me; but ever since Bob Dole and Pat Buchanan made
this a vital issue in the presidential campaign, I have
felt the need to speak out.
I agree with the conservatives that gays cannot fulfill
the sacred obligation of marriages, which is to procreate.
And to be consistent, I believe that heterosexual
marriages that prove childless after nine months should be
dissolved. This would end Dole's, Buchanan's and Newt
Gingrich's current marriages; but I am sure they will
They are also right in arguing that gay marriages are very
threatening to heterosexual marriages. If you've ever
lived near a gay couple, you would know that they set a
very bad example. I remember trying to be heterosexually
married once in the notorious Castro district in San
Francisco. My wife of the time kept comparing me very
unfavorably to gay spouses. They managed to earn a living;
participate in civic life; and still find the time to do
the dishes, fix the sink, and even paint their houses. I
kept telling her it's unnatural for a man to be so handy.
Her unreasonably heightened expectations soon ended our
Another thing is that gay men who want to get legally
married as opposed to just living together or, better yet,
having one-night stands are clearly abnormal. I have never
met a hetersexual man who was thrilled at the prospect of
tying the legal knot. That's why we get stupidly drunk and
destructive at darkly ritualistic pre-wedding bachelor
My heterosexual friends always thought that their live-in
relationships were going along just fine and suspiciously
questioned why their girlfriends felt the need to rush
into marriage. My experience extends to a recently
overheard conversation at a coffee house in my
neighborhood. A scruffy, never-employed screenwriter was
panicked that the successful executive woman he was being
fixed up with for a blind date would prove desperate to
lure him into marriage. Heterosexual men think they can
never be too careful on this issue.
Marriage is scary. Suddenly, you are legally responsible
for someone else's debts, health insurance, and moods; and
that person can make a claim on your income forever.
Anyone who is eager to vow, in the eyes of the law, to
love, honor, and cherish another in sickness and until
death, has got to have a screw loose.
Unless one is in love. When heterosexual men are truly
smitten, they become desperate to capture their prey
before she gets away. But this wouldn't apply to gay
marriages, because gay men never fall in love. All they
care about is partying and sex, unlike heterosexual men,
who mature as they move on in life.
You will notice that I haven't said anything about
lesbians. That's because, being a heterosexual man, I'm
convinced that lesbians don't really exist except in a
kind of purgatory until a real man turns them around. So
few of us and so little time.
So how do I explain all those gay men and lesbian women
lining up to get married as soon as the opportunity
presents itself? Even the recent Semiofficial ceremony
presided over by San Francisco Mayor Willie Brown brought
out dozens of gay couples, most of whom claimed to have
been cohabiting happily for a long time.
The answer is that they want to taunt us heterosexuals
with the subversive notion that gays can be stable and
happy. It's a plot to undermine our time-honored national
values and the Constitution.
The Founding Fathers did not provide for gay marriages,
even though surely some were gay. Conservatively speaking,
at least 3% of the signers of the Constitution must have
been gay, since that's the low estimate for any population
sample. It was probably higher, given that they were a
pretty talented bunch and wore wigs. They also never
declared gays to be three-fifths of a person, which
indicates a certain self-interested tolerance, if you
get my drift.
Clearly, the Founding Fathers were as comfortable with
hypocrisy as most politicians are today. But they forgot
to write a "Don't ask, don't tell" clause into the
Constitution. They also left marriage matters up to the
states. Darn, and then the Supreme Court of Hawaii had to
go and find that their state's Constitution may protect
gay marriages. What if that ruling sticks and it turns out
that thousands of gays achieve happiness in marriage? Dole
is right; it could rock the very "foundation of marriage."
Worse yet, gay couples would be eligible to purchase
family insurance, share health benefits, file joint tax
returns, and have the right to visit a sick spouse in the
hospital. The republic could fall.